NURSYAHBANI Katjasungkana took out her cellular phone. Walking casually, she read the short message: “Careful, your konde (traditional Indonesian women’s bun) is getting loose.” Before she could retort, she heard several high-ranking military officers behind her saying: “Hey, look at those ladies. They can’t tell the difference between an inauguration ceremony and a wedding party. Flowers and all that in their buns!&