THE silver-haired elderly woman suddenly fainted. Her small, frail body seemed even more decrepit. The woman, Marji'a, lost her appetite as soon as she was given the news of the involvement of her favorite son, Asmar Latin Sani, 28, in the recent bombing of the JW Marriott Hotel in Jakarta. For the past 10 days she has not been able to take in a single mouthful of rice. She still does not believe that the youngest of her four children is the