AN occurrence on the second day of the Idul Fitri celebration last year still looms large in the minds of the Bafana family. It took place early that morning. The extended family was gathered in the home of their beloved mother, Ummi Bafana, in Singapore. Laid out on the dinner table were the special foods served on Hari Raya celebration days: lontong laksa rice cakes and fine noodles, ketupat special large cube rice cakes, and rendang spicy mea