SHE sent invitations to all her relatives and colleagues, and forgot no one. Everyone that was close to her and at the party was captivated by her jokes and her laughter. That night, last May, the respected woman was celebrating her 63rd birthday. She was beaming, and showed no signs of the cancer she had long been suffering from.

"That was the last time I met her and shared some good-natured banter with her," Sarlito Wirawan, a senior psy