MY wife is my soul’s tether. Wherever I go, I will return because I leave my heart with her,” said Kakek (grandfather) Djuki, smiling. According to Djuki, his wife is also teacher to their children. They have 10 children and 30 grandchildren. “Gender for us means an open life and understanding and accepting weaknesses and strengths. My wife used to be a primary-school teacher but because there was no one to look after our children she had t